I’m going to write this article on the assumption that EVERYBODY knows being a stay-at-home mum( aka homemaker) is single-handedly the hardest job starting.
This article is a refresh in case anyone has forgotten!
I cannot( and elected not to) believe that there might be people out there that believe housewives have it easy. If twenty-something girlfriends, partners or anyone think we watch KUWTK, eating ice cream or sunning ourselves the working day long, couldn’t be further from the truth.
Narrow-minded people may think homemakers are lazy. I is impossible to conclude these people have never been exposed to the life of a homemaker and don’t know how difficult and challenging periods can be.
Let’s just say you were taken from your 9-5 agency undertaking five days a few weeks. Put into a home with three kids to be a stay-at-home mum. Your mummy duty starts around 5:30 am, directly into stimulating the kids’ lunches, breakfast, clean kitchen, get kids ready for school, make all the beds, straighten the members of this house while trying to get everyone garmented, brush their mane and threw their shoes on.
No time to get dressed yourself, on proceed a pair of tracksuit gasps and out the door, fuzz looking like an absolute bird’s nest. Children academy fall away, carrying crying toddler. Take toddler to playgroup, run around after him and dwelling for lunch. Toddler naps for a couple of hours while you prepare the dinner, do the washing and some cleaning. Why are we organizing dinner in the middle of the working day? There is simply no time when all the kids are home from school.
Time to get back into the car, pick up children, go to after-school sport. Get home, homework to be done, dinner to cook and play with children. cleansing back off the line, all sit down to dinner. Clear up from dinner, wipe floors again, kids showered and in PJs. Reading, watching Tv and more brushing teeth. More stories, hand-holding, singing and finally all children asleep at 8p m.
Any average person who hasn’t been exposed to the mummy world would sh* t themselves and never complain about their occupation again, I’m sure.
We deserve to be acknowledged for our hard work , not used as a joke or an elbow in the ribs,” oh ha ha my spouse watches Tv all day .” That’s not funny to us. A simple, “you’re amazing” and be on your style is enough.
So without further ado, here are 7 reasons why it’s harder to be a housewife than people think.
When you go to work, teamwork is paramount. You have colleagues around to support you and you lean on them in difficult times. Housewives work alone, if by some reason the dinner does not get cooked, who is there to help? No one , no one start fucking talking to and no one to lean on when it all starts south. And believes me, it ever does.
24/ 7 — from the moment you open your eyes till you close them at night, then open them again when you get woken up throughout the night — for tucking ins, sips of water, nestles and more nuzzles. The morning procedure starts with children, housework, running around and everything else in between. And when all that is finished and you’re ready to sit down and have a break from being mummy, it’s time to hang with your husband. Most of the time, you can’t be arsed because you’re too tired. However, he reminds you, he’s the one that has been at work all day. Bah!
You! Mums are so hard on themselves when something is not perfect. Home and family are generally your responsibility and when something happens, you can’t help but take it personally. I remember when our firstborn toddler is passing through that falling over stage. Ever bruised and battered for bumping his head, falling off this and that. My husband berated me for not taking better care of him and wondered why he was always fall over in my care. I was devastated that he possibly saw I wasn’t being a good mum. By child number three, I grew a pair and told him he was in my care 99.9 percentage of the time. Sh* t happens.
While most working very hard all week, they know why they are working — money. Job to do. Here’s your fee check. Homemakers have no pay day. Nothing to give them any sense of encouragement or a pat on the back for getting through a extremely trying week. But people will say, “Oh you get paid in hugs and kisses”. Yes, we do, but that does not buy a nice pair of shoes or a journey to the hairdressers when we look like we’ve been dragged through the hedge and back.
Human beings are social souls and being social is important. Hubby goes off to work and has all that fulfilled for him at the bureau where reference is visualizes his mates. They chat, joke, laugh and go out to lunch.
Housewives get much, much less of that. Most of the interaction we get is with our kids and the Teletubbies or Bob the Builder. We too need real discussions during the day.
You have no annual leave whatsoever. The only period you get to take your leave is when your spouse decides to go for a family holiday during the school holidays. Even then, it’s like a working holiday for you. Same sh* t, different environment. However, it is nice to be out of the school routine.
The children dislike you for establishing them brush their teeth, hubby thinks you nag a little and wonders what you do all day. So who tells you what a great job you’re doing? Other mums do, that’s who, because they are in the same situation. But that is not enough, you really want recognition from your partner. While he does go off and give the money, you too are doing an equally important job, if not more important — looking after his kids.
So, applauds to all housewives across the world!
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